Tuesday, June 5, 2018

New York Times: Kate Spade, American Designer Whose Bags Carried Women Into Adulthood, Is Dead at 55

To some, lifestyle brands are a much maligned category currently - over stylized, over marketed, and cheaply constructed.  Others find the package of bright, cheerful products, asssessible to many, hard to resist.

Regardless, today, a pioneer in the current lifestyle brands revolution, Kate Spade, was found dead. Such news brings more questions than answers immediately, but all must hope her family finds resolution.

31 comments:

  1. Not trying to interpret, diagnose or prognosticate, but it occurred to me while looking at pictures of Ms. Spade that her eyes always looked a little sad. Having said that, I have also read many glowing tributes about her charm and generosity of spirit. What a loss and may she Rest In Peace.

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  2. Such a shock. My heart goes out to her 13-year-old daughter. No matter how successful and privileged someone's life may seem from the outside, one never knows what darkness may lurk inside.

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  3. The saddest irony of Kate Spade's suicide is the degree to which her designs came to represent "joy" for hundreds of thousands of women—the use of bright colours, the celebratory tone of the patterns. It was the sort of whimsy that a woman could purchase in her youth, then carry through into adulthood. A real loss, and a real cautionary tale about appearance camouflaging pain. RIP.

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  4. So very sad.

    MaryAnne

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  5. Sorry, no degree of depression (and I personally know the degrees of depression) will ever excuse writing a suicide not to a 13 year old child. Had Dante thought harder he would have envisioned a 10th circle in Hell, that one reserved for parents who have the selfish audacity to believe that a suicide note will comfort a child. Enough about how wonderful she was; she designed accessories, she didn't cure cancer. We all need to say it is not okay to torture children.

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    1. I agree with you on everything you said.

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    2. I once read that suicide is the most selfish act.
      the teenage years are hard enough. and now just as it's beginning for her daughter … to have to carry this trauma at this time in her young life is sad in the extreme. maybe the lesson is … to learn to reach out and get help. it's so easy to judge. but children and concern for them should surely enter into it!

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    3. We really cannot know what another is experiencing and thus, you cannot truly know how you would respond to circumstances.

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    4. How wonderful to have God commenting on this thread. I mean, you must be God, because no one else could possibly have the insight required to accurately make such a heartless comment, and issue such heartless judgment, on the tragic suicide of a woman they didn't personally know. Thank you for weighing in, Lord.

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    5. The above comment referred to Anon 6, 6:47 p.m.

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    6. None of us with the luxury of sitting here typing are in a position to pass judgment on the late, lamented Kate Spade. Just say, "There but for the grace of God go I" and vow to live your life a little more fully for all of those who can't.

      At the risk of citing a phrase that has become cliche, everyone is fighting some battle you know NOTHING about. Because I have a sore butt doesn't make me an expert on hip replacements, capice? Some people on these comment boards remind me of hyenas that can't WAIT to sink their teeth into any nice, safe, already-downed animal that can't fight back!

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    7. No one knows the pain that another person is suffering. Please do not judge.

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    8. To Anon June 6 8:01pm: You are welcome, my child.

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    9. Arguably, the love for one's child is the most powerful force on earth. If even that force is not enough to stop a person from ending it, I can only assume their despair was simply unbearable. I'll just count my blessings that I've never known that depth of sorrow.

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    10. My heart goes out to the child. I too, agree with everything written
      above. No child should ever have a parent willingly take their life
      regardless of the degree of their depression. Selfish, selfish.

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  6. Passing judgement on an individual in such a state of despair is at best shallow, however, has come to be seen as 'normal' discourse in our country today. There is no Emily Post, FAQs or playbook to guide someone in this this situation. We should all be sorry for another life cut way to short, hope the family will find comfort and get strength from the cherished memories they have, and push for a open dialogue on the mental illness and bring it out of the shadows and recognize it as the epidemic it is

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  7. I think it a good time to reflect. Why does a person who seemingly has it all take their life? Maybe the colorful handbags, pretty clothes, fancy real estate, cars, fame, fortune, friends - maybe there is more to this world.

    Aiken

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    1. Plausible DeplorabilityJune 6, 2018 at 9:25 PM

      The secret is to WANT WHAT YOU HAVE--rather than endles striving for what you think you "want." Because there isn't ever an end to the wanting. The more choices people have, up to the ultimate of every option or acquisition being open and possible for many of today's wealthy, the more pressure they put on themselves to do everything, do it perfectly, be the image they think other people require of them. Like a never-aging perfect Size 2 whose souffle never falls, whose children all go to Harvard and get straight A's, always the perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect friend. That's PRESSURE, kids!

      The lucky ones maybe go bang off to some ashram after exhausting the possibilities of chemical enhancement and pay some monk or swami about a hundred grand to tell them the Great Secret: Live simply, enjoy every moment for itself alone, without grasping or avarice or needing to control other people. Accept YOURSELF as you are, too! That's actually the hardest. Don't let "perfect" be the destroyer of everything good.

      Sounds easy, but most people just. can't. do it. Why do you think so many of the Hollywood and pro-sports types also wind up freaking out? Be all you can be, but after that be humble, mellow, and accepting of natural law and circumstance and you'll be a thousand times happier than all the so-called "celebs." Truth is, most of us aren't the "Elect" of God. Thank Heaven!
      And that's perfectly OK . . .

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  8. When I ordered a kate spade bag it came with a card "Today is Saturday if you wish it" - I stuck it on my kitchen bullentin board. In the morning gulping coffee, car keys in hand, about to join the commuter fray, it always made me smile. Rest in Peace.

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  9. I can't fathom the depths of her pain. I'm so very sad for her family. She was almost exactly my age and I admired her so much.

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  10. Depression is not something to taken lightly. The small high school I retired from recently had a student take his life. The even smaller neighboring high school my nephew's attend had a junior take her life. This is becoming more and more a " way out" for our kids. The Netflix show on teen suicide should remind everyone how horrid school is for many.kids, and social media enhances the bullying and the.sense of "no hope " our children experience. It's changed folks. Dramatically changed in the last ten years.

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    1. Thank you. Well said.

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    2. Plausible DeplorabilityJune 6, 2018 at 9:38 PM

      How many "dystopian" YA novels have been published in the last 10 years? How many hopeful ones? We have systematically dismantled faith in this country, subsidized inadequate parenting, replaced our traditional culture in the public schools with a vapid, purposeless nihilism; replaced exposure to Nature with social media bullying, healthy competition with participation trophies, dumbed down academic standards, prohibited free debate and actively promoted extremes of self-destructive deviance in the name of "inclusiveness." Oh, and don't forget the constant drumbeat of Malthusian nonsense to reinforce the message that you should feel guilty for even being alive! NONE of that would contribute to teen angst, now, WOULD it?

      This society is merely reaping what it has sown.

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    3. I have known six people who killed themselves and four were related to me. Mostly they were old and had lost spouses. I have long believed the basic reason is usually frustration but sometimes that comes from depression and the inability to do anything about the reasons for it.

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    4. Agree, very well said, Govteach.

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    5. One never knows what the next day will hold.

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  11. Joseph Campbell said, “Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.”

    From someone who has experienced great pain as well as joy, I can only read this story with compassion, if not complete understanding. I only hope we find joy when our time of suffering comes, for surely it comes to us all.

    MGC

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  12. Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.

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  13. Guy Clark says that Hank Williams said it best, "...unless you've made no mistakes in your life, be careful of stones that you throw..."

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  14. May she and her family find and be at peace. Holding them in my thoughts and heart. Indeed, a loss for so many.

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